Returning Through Grief

[Random UK Fan]

I’m taking some advice through my good friend @FaithPlusOne. I’m putting out my first post in three weeks now. I’m reluctantly pushing myself a little bit I guess. I lost my wife suddenly three weeks ago tomorrow, and I’ve just been dealing with an enormous amount of grief. It’s left a huge void in my life, she was my best friend and the love of my life. We have two young daughters together, and I spent the last three weeks just being all over the board with my emotions. They seem to rotate through grief, fear, and despair. The grief alone is overwhelming, but also the fear of how I move forward and how I take care of two girls. I know about being a dad, but I don’t know about being a mom. If anybody has any advice from similar circumstances, I’d love to hear them.

 

[Demarcus Kidd-Miller]

Very sorry to hear that. Hope each day gets a little better for you and your family.

 

[JimboBBN]

We are here for you, buddy. It’s a great place to vent to friends. So sorry to hear about your loss. Was she also a Cats fan?

 

[rockycard]

So sorry to hear that Random, thoughts and prayers for you and your whole family 🙏

 

[boilerzz]

Damn. My thoughts and prayers to you and your family. Hopefully us idiots can provide some levity and distraction in your time of grief.

 

[WojoRising]

God bless, and I’m so sorry for your loss. I won’t pretend that I can imagine what you’re going through, I can’t begin to imagine what you’re feeling. As others have said, we’re all here for you - as stupid as it may sound, the board really is a community and you’re a huge part of it. While it may not help something as tragic as this, one thing I’m sure of is that you’ll be receiving as many prayers, thoughts, good vibes - or whatever this eclectic bunch of posters will send - as you can handle.

 

[Afamu]

I’m taking some advice through my good friend @FaithPlusOne. I’m putting out my first post in three weeks now. I’m reluctantly pushing myself a little bit I guess. I lost my wife suddenly three weeks ago tomorrow, and I’ve just been dealing with an enormous amount of grief. It’s left a huge void in my life, she was my best friend and the love of my life. We have two young daughters together, and I spent the last three weeks just being all over the board with my emotions. They seem to rotate through grief, fear, and despair. The grief alone is overwhelming, but also the fear of how I move forward and how I take care of two girls. I know about being a dad, but I don’t know about being a mom. If anybody has any advice from similar circumstances, I’d love to hear them.

So sorry for your. God Bless you and those beautiful children.

 

[GhostOf301]

I am terribly sorry to hear about your unthinkable loss. I wish I could help, but grief is something I don't handle and couldn't give good advice on. I hope you and your family hold on strong and get through this tragedy. Hug those girls.

 

[Five Nattys]

It’s so hard to express condolences to people that have lost loved ones too early in life. I hope this poem that I found will help if only a little bit.

Still Loving You

"Until death do us part," Were the vows we made then. Though they no longer hold, For death has parted our ways, Forever I am plighted to you And still loving you.
I love you in them And honor you by loving them. They are created by our love; Brought to life by the giving of our lives. Their hearts were molded by ours; In their hearts are mine and yours; I love them and in loving them, I am still loving you.
"Until death do us part," Were the vows we made then. I knew then and I know now That they are meant for you. Forever they are engraved on my heart For I am always loving you.

 

[kyjeff1]

Oh no. Man, I'm so sorry this happened. Please let me know if there is anything I can do.

 

[ExitFlagger]

Hate to hear it, Random. But as rough as it seems now, time always heals.

 

[della]

I am truly saddened to read of your loss. Losing a loved one is like have a heavy weight on your chest and it is almost unbearable, but with time the pain will subside. There is really nothing you can do as you grieve and you have to let the process work out. You can be brave and help your kids and lead them through this. I will be praying for you Random.

Death leaves a Heartache that no one can heal
But, Love leaves a memory that no one can steal

 

[winin11]

It's my biggest fear to lose my wife and she is also my best friend.
Prayers for you and your family.

 

[Blueheart32]

wow man this is really shocking to read. I won’t even pretend to know what you must be going through and I have no idea what would be good advice on how to move forward. You not only have to deal with your own grief, but have to be strong for your girls. That’s a lot to ask of anyone. I hope this gets a little easier for you everyday.

 

[Random UK Fan]

Was she also a Cats fan?

she was. She’s the only other one I’d watch a ballgame with because everyone else got on our nerves not paying attention. It’s already a strange time because she won’t be with me during the games anymore, on top of everything being new around the program. We were both curious how things are going to play out this season. I’m just totally broken right now.

 

[cdbearde]

Random my heart breaks for you, I lost my first wife and my first love in the 80's. I also had two small children, it's a very hard and cruel thing to go through. I had my parents and hers to lean on with the two little ones. There is really no advice that fits all circumstances. Just be grateful for the memories that you have, and the two wonderful gifts she gave you, the children, that's what got me through. Take your time and heal the way that fits your needs. God Bless you brother.

 

[UL_1986]

Extremely sorry to hear about your loss brother. Grief is something that we will always carry with us, and I feel like there is always shades of it throughout life, but I hope you allow yourself time to heal and spend quality time with your girls. Hate to hear this happened man.

 

[Scotty00]

Random, I hate to hear this man. No words are gonna make you feel any better but if you ever need anybody to talk to feel free to reach out. I never was one to pray a lot but with all that’s happened with my son and seeing him struggle everyday I’ve turned to prayer because I didn’t feel like I had anywhere else to turn and it’s help me so just know I’ll include you from here on out. I really hate to hear this about your wife buddy.