I note that you are having a conversation with della. I suggest you give up. She can't reason. Put her on ignore and enjoy the conversation.
For my part: The SEC officials allow physical play especially against certain teams. Then those SEC teams, like Tennessee, Alabama, LSU etc. get to the NCAA they expect to play the same way that they were allowed in the SEC. It does not work.
I hate the ACC but the ACC has the best officiating. I don't know why because some of them also call the SEC, but in an ACC game their basketball IQ goes up.
Here is an example of SEC officiating (the is Kentucky at Georgia):
Both hands on a player is a foul.
Look at this and recall that Toppin was going in for a layup or a dunk, but it was ruled by the refs as a steal and was not a UGA foul.
In the game UGA got more than double (close to triple) the free throws to UK and you must remember that UGA is a very poor team.
The SEC refs suck.