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So, just thought I would share, because... well, because I am proud of the little guy, and since nobody here knows me, I can "brag" a bit and it doesn't matter:)

So, we started something called The Season of Giving back on December 26, after a really generous Christmas. My boy was not allowed to get any gifts at all from then until April 1. Instead, anyone who would have gotten him a gift gave him the money they would have spent. He saved it all, and chose three charities to give it to... we looked at maybe ten, and he ended up picking the Wounded Warrior Project (both grandpas and a great grandpa are veterans), the Malala Foundation, and No Kid Hungry (I urged him to pick the Clinton Foundation, but he mumbled something about Russia and uranium and ignored me.) And now, after over three months, the Season of Giving is over, and he counted up his money and we wrote notes to each charity, and we are mailing off his checks! And he went the WHOLE time with a smile:)

Anyway... just wanted to share, because I'm a dad:)

Happy holidays everyone!
 
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ndesgeorges said:
Who hurt you?
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I mean, he kind of has a point. OP is more comfortable posting pictures of his children than of himself. It’s odd. I get not wanting to post pictures of yourself because of weirdos on anonymous forums, but then why in God’s name post photos of your own children?
 
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You're doing a good job parenting, OP. Have to think if more parents followed the same blueprint, the world would be a much better place.

I've been telling my kids Bible stories all day and hoping my 7 year old gets a notion to get baptized. I don't want to force it on her though. It has to be her choice.

Anyway, good job!
 
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Cat_Incognito said:
I've been telling my kids Bible stories all day and hoping my 7 year old gets a notion to get baptized. I don't want to force it on her though. It has to be her choice.
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This is perfect for a thread I thought about starting this offseason discussing the raising of kids, especially for those of that have them. I would open with “7-year olds shouldn’t make their own decisions, because they’re stupid.” Saying that, I have a boy who just turned 8. The movie Big Daddy is a great idea and all, until you have kids and remember how dumb you were at that age. Hell, I shouldn’t have been making my own decisions at 17, let alone 7. Anyway, I’m not trying to derail Dude’s thread, so maybe we can discuss this in a different thread this offseason. Until then.
 
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SNU0821 said:
I’m sorry, but this is weird AF. This is a basketball board with a bunch of strangers and you’re posting pics about your kid. Weird.
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I posted pics of my child....Didn't get this reaction. Yes my son is 19. But still.

And to some this is more than just a basketball board. Adter being on here for close to 10 years, its starts to become more like , well, a fraternity. Just a bunch of dudes(and yes one sexy mamma), talking about sports, politics, so on and so on. You get to "know" folks. Feel comfortable. I see nadda wrong with OP's thread. MOF, I think its cool as hell.
 
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Hey all,

KB, KY, Cat, Borden, thanks for the kind words. Yeah, trying to raise them right is hard (hell, raising them at ALL is hard!) but you have to hope that it will pay off. In the end, we've all got a lot more in common than different, and being a dad especially is something a lot of the guys here (at least the older guys) can relate to.

And sorry, but a few of you are just so strange and angry and just seem to struggle with being decent people. Same folks, I remember, took something about being thankful for living in a good neighborhood and got creepy as hell with it. You guys must have absolutely torn Borden APART in his thread about his son going off to the Navy. I mean, I'm not going to bother to check, but I can only assume it was savage as fk.
 
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TheDude1 said:
Hey all,

KB, KY, Cat, Borden, thanks for the kind words. Yeah, trying to raise them right is hard (hell, raising them at ALL is hard!) but you have to hope that it will pay off. In the end, we've all got a lot more in common than different, and being a dad especially is something a lot of the guys here (at least the older guys) can relate to.

And sorry, but a few of you are just so strange and angry and just seem to struggle with being decent people. You guys must have absolutely torn Borden APART in his thread about his son going off to the Navy. I mean, I'm not going to bother to check, but I can only assume it was savage as fk.
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Raising children today is tough. Real tough. Nothing as it was when I was raised. I mean my son has never said a cross word to me--------He knows better. But he has muttered the thought. Me, thiough? HELL.FVCKING,NO. It never crossed my mind(to back talk, or not do as I was told). I didn't even consider it. I was to scared my pops woild know I was thinking it, and beat my ass. Pops had to spank me once. That was it. Lesson learned.

Once. After that----------Nope.

Kids today have a sense of entitlement. As I told my son, "the only thing you are entitled to-------is what I tell you , you are entitled to".

THings I passed on:

1. On working: "Worjing hard won't kill you son. But trying not to will".

2. Loyalty: "Your word is the strongest thing you will ever have. Lose that, and you have nothng".

3. Being honest: "If you tell one lie, you better have 15 more to go with it". My favorite thing my PaPa ever told me.

4. Respect: "If you do not give it-----don't expect to receive it:.

As with drinking, drugs, etc, etc...I;ve just tried to educate them. Stop and think. Please. It worked with my son. And my youngest daughter. But the oldest? Not so much. I drove my son to the grave yard, then to the local jail, He was like, "Ummm, dad...........What are we doing". I just told him, "Just showing you were you will be if choose that type of life. Just thought you'd like to see that".
 
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Mine are too young to worry about drugs and all of that so far, thank god. But yeah, it’s hard.

The lesson I’ve drilled into my kids is there are three things in life that are key... most important is being kind, next is working hard, and finally, being smart. That’s like a straight up mantra in our household. I figure you have to keep it simple for little ones, and that gets the main points across, you know?

I’ll be honest, as much as we want to complain about kids nowadays (some people seem to treat it as some therapeutic thing) they DO have it hard in some ways we didn’t. The CONSTANT, and I mean CONSTANT, pull of social media and computers and all of that, along with the absolute constant nature of how connected everyone is, is just SO damn unhealthy... like... SO bad. It’s something most adults do not account for, but as a teacher... holy shit, you can just see how it absolutely ruins people:(
 
IUfanBorden said:
I posted pics of my child....Didn't get this reaction. Yes my son is 19. But still.

And to some this is more than just a basketball board. Adter being on here for close to 10 years, its starts to become more like , well, a fraternity. Just a bunch of dudes(and yes one sexy mamma), talking about sports, politics, so on and so on. You get to "know" folks. Feel comfortable. I see nadda wrong with OP's thread. MOF, I think its cool as hell.
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To me, it’s different because you were comfortable posting pictures of yourself and your wife too. For someone to be weirded or by posting their own picture but then posting pictures of their kids.... it just seems odd to me. “I’m not gonna post a picture of myself because of all the weird creepy people on the internet..... but hey look at my child!”
 
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hailtoyourvictor said:
To me, it’s different because you were comfortable posting pictures of yourself and your wife too. For someone to be weirded or by posting their own picture but then posting pictures of their kids.... it just seems odd to me. “I’m not gonna post a picture of myself because of all the weird creepy people on the internet..... but hey look at my child!”

I’d personally post a picture of myself before any of my family members but maybe that’s just me.
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I can understand this. TO me I don't care. I mean today, if you really want to know who I am, and are savvy with a computer, well-------you'll find out who I am.

Plus I do not feel threatened by this place. I mean sure, some are off their rickers a little. But hell I have neighbors like that. To me, it's just not a threatening place.
 
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Good job. My kid my wife and i adopted from Africa went around collecting cans from neighbors, then starting collecting scrap from local businesses. Ended up collecting over $10k in scrap over a 3 year period and donated it to St. Jude's and the local boys and girls club. It's amazing what these kids choose to do on their own out of the goodness of their own hearts.
 
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hailtoyourvictor said:
I mean, he kind of has a point. OP is more comfortable posting pictures of his children than of himself. It’s odd. I get not wanting to post pictures of yourself because of weirdos on anonymous forums, but then why in God’s name post photos of your own children?
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Hes proud of his kid tho. Also, maybe I am mistaken, but I thought I have seen pictures of him before
 
Yeah, I read what Hail wrote.

First, I’ve posted a photo of myself here before.

Second... I do think there are some genuine assholes on this forum, assholes who I am relatively sure would not go beyond this forum... but only relatively.

I am nearly *certain* there is nobody on this forum who is the sort of genuine sicko who would go after a photo of my child, of whom there is no digital footprint or anything.

Two different things.

I’m proud of my boy. As a dad and a dude, I wanted to share with the dads and dudes here, who I might disagree with on stuff like politics or UNC, but whom I ultimately share far more in common with, and among whom personal, non basketball stuff is often shared. It seems that a few select folks are so wrapped up in their own whatever that they don’t get that, or at least they are faking that they don’t get it to try to get shots in. I suppose that is fine.
 
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Da_Bull said:
Good job. My kid my wife and i adopted from Africa went around collecting cans from neighbors, then starting collecting scrap from local businesses. Ended up collecting over $10k in scrap over a 3 year period and donated it to St. Jude's and the local boys and girls club. It's amazing what these kids choose to do on their own out of the goodness of their own hearts.
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No shit, you adopted a child from Africa? Where from? That’s an incredible deed. Can I ask what brought that about?

Always funny when you learn something about someone and it changes how you viewed them. Suppose that’s a good thing.
 
TheDude1 said:
Mine are too young to worry about drugs and all of that so far, thank god. But yeah, it’s hard.

The lesson I’ve drilled into my kids is there are three things in life that are key... most important is being kind, next is working hard, and finally, being smart. That’s like a straight up mantra in our household. I figure you have to keep it simple for little ones, and that gets the main points across, you know?

I’ll be honest, as much as we want to complain about kids nowadays (some people seem to treat it as some therapeutic thing) they DO have it hard in some ways we didn’t. The CONSTANT, and I mean CONSTANT, pull of social media and computers and all of that, along with the absolute constant nature of how connected everyone is, is just SO damn unhealthy... like... SO bad. It’s something most adults do not account for, but as a teacher... holy shit, you can just see how it absolutely ruins people:(
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During Christmas, Thanksgiving, etc, etc...we collected all electronics. It was family time. And that's exaclty what it was going to be.

I've tried very hard to instill the importance of family into my kids. Its the cornerstone of almost every accomplishment. And supplies the support when things go wrong. I've told my kids: If you cannot love and be kind to your family, how in the hell do you think you can do so to those outside of your family?

Choose your friends wisely. Pay attention to how the act toward their parents. How they act toward teachers. That will tell you a lot. If they are disrespectful to thier parents, what makes you think they will respect you? There have been many of times I've had to forbade my kids to hang out with other kids. I hated that. But its my job.

Dude you sound as if you are on the path of a being a terrific---I mean terrific role model for your child. I think we as parents sometimes forget we are exactly that. Best of luck and stay on the path you are on.
 
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IUfanBorden said:
During Christmas, Thanksgiving, etc, etc...we collected all electronics. It was family time. And that's exaclty what it was going to be.

I've tried very hard to instill the importance of family into my kids. Its the cornerstone of almost every accomplishment. And supplies the support when things go wrong. I've told my kids: If you cannot love and be kind to your family, how in the hell do you think you can do so to those outside of your family?

Choose your friends wisely. Pay attention to how the act toward their parents. How they act toward teachers. That will tell you a lot. If they are disrespectful to thier parents, what makes you think they will respect you? There have been many of times I've had to forbade my kids to hang out with other kids. I hated that. But its my job.

Dude you sound as if you are on the path of a being a terrific---I mean terrific role model for your child. I think we as parents sometimes forget we are exactly that. Best of luck and stay on the path you are on.
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Thanks B, I really do appreciate that, dad to dad:) Is there a more important job for a dad than guiding his kids? Dunno if there is.

Love the electronics collection. I’ll be stealing that when the kids are old enough:)

The friends thing is one we are working on. My boy is SO so so well behaved and straight laced, but he does sort of enjoy the wild, misbehaving kids, and he is still learning that some kids are just assholes. There is a boy across the street who is that sort... the kind of kid who throws the hardest snowball right at faces, the kind of kid who talks shit when he is playing sports and stuff, and not, like, friendly shit, but dickhead shit, and even talks it to adults... one of those. Trying to teach the boy how to evaluate friends, and how to figure out the difference between a true friend, someone you can hang out with a bit but don’t get too close to, and who you avoid. It’s tough.
 
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Thanks B, I really do appreciate that, dad to dad:) Is there a more important job for a dad than guiding his kids? Dunno if there is.
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There is not. If we fail, they probably fail. And unfortunately, even when we do not fail, they sometimes fail. The issue with my daughter absolutely tore my world apart. I blamed myslef over, and over and over. Then I got mad. Then I got pissed. Then sad. Then mad. Then blamed myself. Then my wife. Then the drug dealer. It wasn't until I blamed the right person, was I able to truly help: It was her. And that Dude was hard. But now she's on a great path. Has her kids back. Nice home. Good job. But most importantly------SOBER.

Parenting is tough, man. But her issues taught me something-------Parenting never ends. Our guidance is needed, well, forever. I still call my mom and dad. I still call on them for guidance. And I probably always will.

Just know this--------You're gonna have failures. Hiccups....Road blocks, etc, etc,,,It's part of it. But man stick to your guns. Stick to your plan and your rules.. Do not lessen it for their happoness. My children thank me all the time for being strict. Being on them about homework,.....chores.......etc, etc...It molds them. But even then, sometimes man, it just goes wrong. But don't do what I did. Don't pull away. Don't hide. FIGHT. I mean fight man. When I got over myself? When I quit worrying about my reputation, and started worrying about her? Oh, man. Never had som many emotions. And never was I so God damn mad. Her dealer, or one of them, actually came by the house looking for her. I was like really? It didn't go well for him. Funny how when its you looking at a gun, it seems to, well, curtail your bravado. Not as tough.

Anyways..........Sorry about the rant.

Just tell the little guy this: "Uncle Borden says--------It ain't the god damn refs fault".!!

Note: you can leave out the "god damn part". Probably shiould TBH...:eek:
 
TheDude1 said:
No shit, you adopted a child from Africa? Where from? That’s an incredible deed. Can I ask what brought that about?

Always funny when you learn something about someone and it changes how you viewed them. Suppose that’s a good thing.
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Gambia. Wife was adopted so she always wanted to return the favor.
 
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Hes proud of his kid tho. Also, maybe I am mistaken, but I thought I have seen pictures of him before
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Oh I didn’t think he did. Maybe I’m thinking of someone else but I thought he didn’t post his picture because of “online weirdos” or something.
 
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I deleted it as you were responding. Laughing I didn't want anyone to take it the wrong way. Sensitive world these days.
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Yes it is. Some folks just don't when to separate humor from reality. They see it as condoning the abduction of kids or something. Making light of the issue. Me? I see it as a metaphor of what life has become for kids: Electronics. or something like that. Either way--------funny shit.
 
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IUfanBorden said:
I posted pics of my child....Didn't get this reaction. Yes my son is 19. But still.

And to some this is more than just a basketball board. Adter being on here for close to 10 years, its starts to become more like , well, a fraternity. Just a bunch of dudes(and yes one sexy mamma), talking about sports, politics, so on and so on. You get to "know" folks. Feel comfortable. I see nadda wrong with OP's thread. MOF, I think its cool as hell.
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I mean, it’s creepy as hell. Yes, you may “know” a few dudes on here, but it’s not like y’all go out drinking or watch games together (assumption on my part, maybe you do). But for most of the people here I would assume they don’t know anyone here beyond the message board. And with how messed up the world is today, you have an irresponsible father, in my opinion, posting pics of his kid online, to a bunch of random dudes. Again, WEIRD AF. Not to mention, I get why the dude would want to post his picture here, being a teacher and getting called out for calling teenage girls sexy. Completely creepy guy showing another side of being totally creepy.
 
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hailtoyourvictor said:
To me, it’s different because you were comfortable posting pictures of yourself and your wife too. For someone to be weirded or by posting their own picture but then posting pictures of their kids.... it just seems odd to me. “I’m not gonna post a picture of myself because of all the weird creepy people on the internet..... but hey look at my child!”
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Yup. And the fact that he creeps on teenage girls, I get why he wouldn’t post a picture of himself here.
 
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So, just thought I would share, because... well, because I am proud of the little guy, and since nobody here knows me, I can "brag" a bit and it doesn't matter:)

So, we started something called The Season of Giving back on December 26, after a really generous Christmas. My boy was not allowed to get any gifts at all from then until April 1. Instead, anyone who would have gotten him a gift gave him the money they would have spent. He saved it all, and chose three charities to give it to... we looked at maybe ten, and he ended up picking the Wounded Warrior Project (both grandpas and a great grandpa are veterans), the Malala Foundation, and No Kid Hungry (I urged him to pick the Clinton Foundation, but he mumbled something about Russia and uranium and ignored me.) And now, after over three months, the Season of Giving is over, and he counted up his money and we wrote notes to each charity, and we are mailing off his checks! And he went the WHOLE time with a smile:)

Anyway... just wanted to share, because I'm a dad:)

Happy holidays everyone!
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Well done dude and dudes son! Awesome stuff!
 
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I mean, it’s creepy as hell. Yes, you may “know” a few dudes on here, but it’s not like y’all go out drinking or watch games together (assumption on my part, maybe you do). But for most of the people here I would assume they don’t know anyone here beyond the message board. And with how messed up the world is today, you have an irresponsible father, in my opinion, posting pics of his kid online, to a bunch of random dudes. Again, WEIRD AF. Not to mention, I get why the dude would want to post his picture here, being a teacher and getting called out for calling teenage girls sexy. Completely creepy guy showing another side of being totally creepy.
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Is this still a little grudge that youre holding from the political threads?
 
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