Lost my best friend.

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  1. SosaUK

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    Best friend died in a hotel room a couple days ago. Completely crushed. Sports isn’t doing it for me. Shit blows.
     
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    Sorry to hear that. That has to suck
     
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    sorry dude
     
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    Sorry to hear that. My best friend was murdered 5 years ago. It was a very traumatic and draining experience for me, but I do promise that the pain will fade......just won't go away. Cherish the good memories and avoid focusing on the end of their life.
     
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    So sorry.
     
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    Deeply sorry for your loss.
    You're right. Sports mean little when it comes to life and death. I'll be praying for you and your friend's family.

    Again, sorry my friend!
     
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    Very sorry to read this. Be as strong as you can.
     
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    Sorry homie... it's never easy....
     
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    Very sorry to hear man. Let me know if you need to talk or anything
     
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    That's tough man. I lost mine almost 6 years ago. The emotions can be overwhelming at times, but it gets easier.
     
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    Sorry for your loss Sosa, my thoughts with you and friends family.
     
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    Lost my best friend and better half 27 months ago. It does get easier but it takes time. Know that I’m here for you! This board has been good to me in that regard. You’re gonna find strength you didn’t know you had. Praying for you now!
     
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    Hope you're doing well man. I've lost some people too. Never gets better but it does get easier...at least to me.
     
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    Damn man, that's awful. I hate to hear that.
     
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    Very sorry to hear it!!!
     
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    I’m doing well. One day at a time and I think about what you’ve been through. We just gotta soldier on. Cheers!
     
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    Sorry to hear that.... Lost a great buddy and hunting partner 11/17 will be 1 year ago... It sucks.

    I hope the cares flee in the reliving of the good times.... It helps me....
     
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    yep, life can be a mfer at times but you have to try and focus on the good times

    we buried my moms twin sister today and watched my mom at times struggle with who the funeral was for
     
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    I have a twin sister. You would have to bury me with her
     
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    yep, they were very tight for 90 years
    in a way her alzheimer's may be a slight blessing at this point
     
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    Condolences for her and you as well.... My Mom struggles with confusion after a stroke... She and a Sister are the last of 6 siblings..... its tough....
     
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    Sorry man.
     
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    Dang, Sosa sorry to hear about that man. Hang in there bruh. Storms don't always last.
     
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    Sorry to hear that. Prayers and best wishes to you.
     
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    Thanks man. I had another best friend who was murdered In Vegas like 10 years ago too. Shits wack.
     
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    Thanks everybody for the comments. Appreciate it. I’ll be alright. It’s somethjng unfortunately that I’ve come accustomed to. Probably lost 10 or so close friends in the last 15 years or so and I’m only 31.
     
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    It certainly tests you as a human being in every way imaginable. I found myself consumed with hatred, depression, apathy, etc. The best thing that I kept in mind was, "My friend wouldn't want me to become self-destructive as that's an insult to their memory". Honoring my best friend by living a good life was my way of coping and it helped A LOT. It's tough because I am always in touch with his sister and father and certain holidays or dates can ratchet up the emotions, but the pain has faded to where it is more manageable to deal with than it was years ago.
    I'll pray for you to find strength, bud.
     
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    Yep. Completely agree. With my friend now, nobody saw it coming at all. I got one of those calls from one our really close friends that said, “did you hear” and I knew something awful happened.

    And Tennessee won, Jesus help me.
     
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    God Bless man and prayers.
     
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    Best wishes. Hang in there.
     
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    An mfer it can be. For sure. God Bless and prayers.
     
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    Sorry to hear that. I know it’s tough, but hang in there and appreciate the friendship and what the person meant to you and what you meant to them.
     
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    Prayers.
     
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    Damn.... I'm about the same age and have had 1.


    Sorry to hear man.
     
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    Consider yourself lucky bro. Real good friend died right around thanksgiving last year and now this. Plus my buddy just had his birthday last weekend.
     
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    Rip brother. Live your best days for him. Take the chances/risks he would want you to take knowing how ****ing short life is.
     
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    I feel your pain. I truly hope he is in a better place and that you can find peace dealing with your loss. Prayers and love be with you.
     
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    1. My best friend passed away in 2003. It’s tough but you have to tell yourself that it gets better with the passing of time. Cherish those memories of the good times with your friend.

    2. Yes, Tennessee DID win today. And the Vols will win some more too! Bank it
     
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    I'm sorry for you loss. It's times like this that make you sit back and think about what's really important.

    I'm there right now too. I found out a couple of days ago that a guy I went to high school with that I'd known since elementary school, who I'd been Little League teammates with, passed away. He and I weren't close (we'd only seen each other I think once since graduation), but it's still had me thinking about stuff the past couple of days.
     
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    Sorry for your loss Sosa.

    Sports is just entertainment.

    Friendships are true life.

    A man has very few "true" friends.

    May your friend RIP.
     
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